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Shall I stay or shall I go?

Here we are in soggy Tunbridge Wells, in a house we hate, but still we can't quite make the decision to leave. This is the story of why we are in this position, and hopefully how eventually we'll change life for the better. Maybe it will ring a few bells with some of you!

Like a circle in a spiral..............
Sunday, March 26, 2017 @ 5:36 PM

I had spent so long working, right up until I left for the airport that I wasn't really looking forward to my break.  

On the way to the airport I was thinking that it was a stupid waste of time and money which could be better used.

Even when I had landed and collected my hire car, all the way to Chez Nous, I wasn't feeling exited or even particularly happy.


As soon as I had entered our Spanish home, and made that first cup of tea, I found that I was almost euphoric. All the tension around my neck and shoulders disappeared, and I felt relaxed almost to the point of horizontal.

I wandered around opening everything up, making sure all my bits and pieces were where I wanted them and relaxed onto the sofa with a good book. I was in heaven.

Knowing that I was going to wake up to a bright sunny day, with no-one and nothing to attend to I slept better than I have for ages, without any sleeping tablets.

Writing this down it becomes clear to me that we really should up sticks and move out, - but then all the doubts crowd in.

How will we live with very little income?

I'm quite shy, I can seem a bit offhand and it takes me a long time to make friends, although when I do they are friends for life. I'm not a joiner of clubs, and I don't drink alcohol and want to party. I like to read, I like buy and sell quality clothes and other 'girlie' stuff, these are quite lonesome activities, basically I'm an introvert.

Will I feel very cut off from the life I have always known? I've lived in the Tunbridge Wells area all my life. I see people who I recognise (not necessarily friends) everywhere I go and it makes me feel secure.

Then there are my Sons, one not yet quite standing on his own feet, the other married with 2.5 grandchildren who I won't see as often if we move to Spain.

These are the things I can't quite leave...yet.................even though all the time I'm in the UK I want to.

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graemeh said:
Saturday, April 1, 2017 @ 4:12 PM

My advice is to just make the decision to leave T.W. a.s.p. BUT rent out your house via a reliable agent who will manage it and get tenants without you having the hassle. You will then be able to enjoy EP. but in the knowledge that if it ever goes wrong you have an anchor to move back to in the U.K. without having to go through the process of finding and buying a new house. Your UK property will continue to gain or loose value but that will not effect you as it would if you had sold it to move to EP. With the good market in EP and with your knowledge of clothing why don't you think about buying clothing from all the people moving back to the UK and elsewhere and then selling it on at the market. You will have many regulars and will be able to make nice casual friendships with these customers. If you have friends in the UK you could get them to buy QUALITY clothing from the many charity shops here and they could then send them out to you in bulk. You could then share the profits. Give it a trial and see. There is a demand in Spain for NAMED BRANDED second hand clothing. You will find that the some other market stall holders will enter your circle of friends. To test the market first go to the various markets in the EP and surrounding area and see what clothing sells and the prices they get. Do not mess around with unbranded clothing even ZARA will sell like hot cakes. Remember it is not all about the money it is the experience you have gained. I hope all this helps.

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