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Diary of a Nobody

I've lived in southern Spain for over 16 years. I like to write/blog. It occurs to me that many of my articles are like a diary. So, from now on this is where I shall post my diary entries.

International Relations
Thursday, October 23, 2025

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)I was in the bar of my local, the Ronda Valley Hotel, the other evening. There were seven customers and two staff.

The only Spanish-speakers were Fermin and Maria, both staff, and me!

 

Ronda Valley Hotel [Photo: Paul Whitelock]

 

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)Eavesdropping the conversations as non-Spanish-speaking customers placed their orders was fascinating, yet, despite the language barrier, everybody got what they wanted.

 

 

[Logo courtesy of The Council of Europe]    

 

Time was, I would have intervened and offered my services as a translator / interpreter, but I don't do that any longer.

Why not?

 

Several reasons:

  • People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)The hotel apparently doesn't like it
  • The punters are often not grateful for the help
  • Or, they are excruciatingly boring / "up themselves" / drunk!

 

 

[Photo: The Olive Press]    

 

So, I sat there, consumed my two "tercios" (33 cl) and left.

 

***

A couple of nights later, it was a different matter.

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)The new "workaway", Hannah, from Brazil, was talking in Portuguese with three Portuguese men, who turned out to be coach drivers from Lisbon. 

I had to go to the bar to order another drink, and ended up getting involved in the conversation.

I don't speak Portuguese, but with my knowledge of Spanish, I could get the gist.

Then, when they learned I was Brtitish, they switched to English, which they all spoke well. 

 

 

[Photo: Mobility Friends]    

 

Links:

PROFESSIONAL SERVICES - Help me, Ronda

Working for free? Why? Er… why not? - Secret Serrania de Ronda

Working for free? Why? Er… why not? Part 2. - Eye on Spain

 

© Diary of a Nobody

 

Photos:

Council of Europe, Mobility Friends, Paul Whitelock, The Olive Press 

 

Tags:

A1 Translations, Council of Europe, Diary of a Nobody, Eye on Spain, Fermin, Maria, Mobility Friends, non-Spanish-speaking customers, Paul Whitelock, Ronda Valley Hotel, Secret Serrania, Spanish-speakers, The Olive Press, www.help-me-ronda.com



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Ronda, dos resonancias and a rock in the road
Monday, October 20, 2025

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)The missus and I had Saturday evening appointments for MRI scans (resonancias) at Hospital Quiron in Marbella.

We set off early afternoon because we needed to get a replacement water filter from Leroy Merlin for our Philips osmosis device which purifies our contaminated well-water and makes it safe for drinking.

[QuironSalud]    

 

Next .....

Having done that, as if one French-owned store wasn't enough, we popped into Al Campo, the French-owned supermarket in the La Cañada shopping precinct.

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)Then it was time to head for the hospital. We got there early, checked in and discovered that the patient before us had not turned up, so we got "seen to" earlier than scheduled.

The scans were of our heads to check whether we had symptoms of developing dementia. We'll find out in a week when the results come through.

 

[QuironSalud]    

 

Time for dinner

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)So, out of the hospital earlier than expected, our thoughts turned to dinner. We decided to head for one of our favourite chiringuitos in the area, "Kala Kalua", on the beach in San Pedro de Alcantara.

We got there at around 6.30 pm to find that they were in the process of closing! On Saturday night?

 

 

    Chiringuito Kala Kalua [Trip Advisor]

 

The very polite and apologetic waiter suggested their sister restaurant, "Nuevo Reino", as an alternative. "The menu is similar", he said, and, more importantly for us, it was open for dinner.

OK, we thought, we'll give it a try,

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)The terrace was fully booked, said the head waiter, unless we could finish by 9.00 pm, when one table was reserved from.

It was 7.00 pm, so we had two hours.

"I think we can manage that," I said.

 

Rita chose ensalada Cesar (Caesar salad) and I went for sopa de mariscos and fritura malagueña.

 

 

    Restaurante Reino Nuevo [CIT Marbella]

 

Rita's salad was enormous, yet she was disappointed. "It's better in Kala Kalua," but she was nevertheless full.

I enjoyed my seafood soup, well-priced too, at just 8 euros.

Unfortunately my fritura was hugely disappointing. There was little variety and few decent fish on the plate. At 25 euros that was definitely a rip-off!

"The fritura is also much better at 'Kala Kalua' !" I decided.

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)The drinks were normally priced for the coast, ie expensive, but what really "caught my eye", or "stuck in my throat", was not a fishbone, but the cover charge for a bread roll and a little slab of butter - a massive 1.75 euros per person!

The version of me of some years ago would have kicked up a stink, but I'm older now and I don't need the stress.

And anyway, the waiting staff were delightful. It wasn't their fault, so we tipped them generously. But we shall not be going to "Nuevo Reino" ever again!

 

 

Our bill [Paul Whitelock]    

 

Home time

I'd consumed two beers, so Rita took the wheel.

Everything was going fine. We were halfway home, until she hit a small rock lying in the road.

The tyre deflated instantly, but she couldn't stop, because it's a winding mountain road and there wasn't anywhere.

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)By the time we got to somewhere off the road and level, "Venta Madroño", the tyre was pretty wrecked.

The venta was closed and it was pitch black.

I investigated the situation to see whether I might attempt to change the wheel, but the long handled spanner (tyre iron) was missing from the car. Why?

 

Venta Madroño in daylight [Cadena SER]    

 

I rang the insurance company, Mapfre (breakdown is included in your car insurance policy in Spain). The nice lady in the call centre in Barcelona took the details and within a short time "Gruas de Ronda" rang me. The mechanic said he needed 30 minutes to get to us.

He arrived bang on 30 minutes after our call.

He did the necessary, and changed the wheel. I signed the paperwork and took over the driving (Rita had had enough and was not a little distressed).

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)

    [Above photos by Paul Whitelock]
 

 

Conclusion

People struggle against the wind and rain in Malmö, Sweden, after a storm reached southern Sweden, Saturday Oct. 4, 2025. (Johan Nilsson/TT via AP)So, we got back home two hours later than envisaged, gone 11.00 pm, to find two starving pussycats waiting for their dinner.

Rita went straight to bed and I adjourned to my "local", Hotel Ronda Valley, for a well-deserved beer (or three!)

 

 

Hotel Ronda Valley [Paul Whitelock]    

 

© Diary of a Nobody

 

Photos:

CIT Marbella, Kala Kalua, Nuevo Reino, Paul Whitelock, QuironSalud, Trip Advisor

 

Tags:

Al Campo, Caesar salad, CIT Marbella, chiringuito, contaminated well-water, dementia, Diary of a Nobody, ensalada Cesar, French-owned supermarket, fritura malagueña, Gruas de Ronda, Hotel Ronda Valley, Kala Kalua, La Cañada, Leroy Merlin, MRI scan, Mapfre, Nuevo Reino, osmosis device, Paul Whitelock, Philips, QuironSalud, resonancia, safe for drinking, San Pedro de Alcantara, sopa de mariscos, Trip Advisor, tyre iron, Venta Madroño, water filter



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"I'm an insomniac, get me out of here!"
Wednesday, October 1, 2025

As we get older, we tend to need less sleep.

That's a fact.

But, if we get too little "shut-eye", that can be prejudicial to our health.

 

 

    [Image courtesy of the BBC]

 

My sleep experience

Since I reached adulthood aged 18 I have never slept for long enough.

As students, we stayed up late into the night "chewing the fat" and putting the world to rights. And, if we were in luck, losing our virginity.

When I started work as a teacher, a job I did for 15 years, I never slept for long enough. I was running on adrenalin.

[Photo courtesy of Westend61]    

 

For the next 15 years I was a schools inspector/adviser, a stressful occupation at the best of times, and the pattern of insufficient sleep continued.

When we did Ofsted inspections, it got worse.

Around that time I had a nervous breakdown.

 

    [Ofsted]

 

After redundancy, divorce and early retirement - I was 55 - you'd have thought my REM sleep would improve. Dream on!

In a disastrous new relationship with a recently bereaved widow, my stress continued, until I left her and went through a spell of depression.

I was alone and a divorced man in my late 50s. I didn't socialise for a while, then I had a great summer in 2008, spent in Luxembourg with another widow, before meeting, by chance, later that year in Ronda (Malaga), the woman who became my second wife in 2010 when I was 60 years old.

Luxembourg Ville [Outdoor Active]    

 

Covid-19 was a challenge which nearly killed Rita and left me with long-Covid health issues.

Three years ago I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. The tablets tend to make you a bit "loose".

I also retain water in my legs, the treatment for which is a diuretic which makes you "pee" a lot.

So, now my sleep is interrupted every 3/4 hours because I need to go to the "loo", to do a number 1 or a number 2.

[Photo courtesy of the BBC]    

 

These days I need a siesta in the afternoons. That's OK - a "power nap" for just 10/15 minutes usually "does the trick" and reinvigorates me.

 

Advice on a way forward

The Olive Press, the fortnightly free paper down here, has just published an article with advice for insomniacs in the form of a list of "do's" and "don'ts".

The journalist Adam Husicka writes that the first 60 minutes after waking up could hold the key to living longer.

 

Adam Husicka [The Olive Press]    

 

Quoting Dr William Li, a Harvard University-trained physician, he writes that one of the biggest mistakes is to reach for your mobile phone when you wake up.

This, says Dr Li, overwhelms the brain at a time when it is most vulnerable.

"It can lead to stress and poor concentration during the rest of the day".

 

    [Photo of Dr Li courtesy of El Español]

 

Also, we should avoid eating solid food for about an hour after waking.

Black coffee is OK.

"Light physical activity, eg stretching, boosts circulation, flexibility and oxygen flow to the brain", adds Dr Li.

Other recommendations include stepping outside for sunlight, doing breathing exercises, meditation or a cold shower, concludes Husicka.

[Photo courtesy of Brass Monkey]    

 

And me?

I admit I reach for my mobile on waking, to check the time. Then I often notice I have some unread messages, so naturally I open them.

I prefer tea without milk to black coffee, so I guess that's alright.

I get outside as soon as it's light, so I get plenty of Vitamin D.

I immediately start doing things like cleaning the pool, watering the fruit trees, plants and vegetables, so I think that counts as exercise.

 

    [Photo courtesy of Bosch DIY]

 

My cold shower substitute is a dip in the pool. At this time of year - end of September -  the temperature has dropped to 20 degrees Celsius, which is just like having a cold shower!

 

Conclusion

I need to drink less beer, ignore my mobile phone on waking

and .....

well, the other things I'm doing rather well at, aren't I?

 

 

 

[Image courtesy of Unifikas]

 

© Diary of a Nobody

 

Links:

Magnificent, under-rated Málaga - Eye on Spain

MALAGA CITY - Help me, Ronda

Picasso for free - scroll down past the above article

HELP ME RONDA - Eye on Spain

OUR DAY OUT - Help me, Ronda

 

Pictures:

Bosch DIY, Brass Monkey, BBC, El Español, Ofsted, Outdoor Active, The Olive Press, Unifikas, Westend61

 

Thanks:

Adam Husicka, Diary of a Nobody, Dr William Li, Paul Whitelock, The Olive Press, www.eyeonspain.com, www.help-me-ronda.com

 

Tags:

Adam Husicka, Andalucia, Bosch DIY, Brass Monkey, BBC, El Español, Covid-19, depression, Diary of a Nobody, Dr William Li, early retirement, Harvard, Luxembourg, nervous breakdown, Ofsted, Outdoor Active, Paul Whitelock, REM sleep, redundancy, Ronda, single, The Olive Press, Unifikas, Westend61, www.eyeonspain.com, www.help-me-ronda.com



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