23 Jan 2012 6:38 PM:

Hello Alyson,

Thank you very much for that advice and the pointers.

I will get on to it, but money is in short supply, and I am paying for Aidan's University fees etc...

I like the idea of the radios and maybe a couple of the papers might do a story for me.

Right now everything is worth trying as to do this from America will be a nightmare.

Once again thank you for your help.

Much peace Lia.

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23 Jan 2012 5:15 PM:

Justin,

Thank you for all your help and advice.  I need to try to find some photo's of him but we have move a few times since we last heard from him and of course over the period of 16/17 years we have added more and more photo's to the collection. Funny thing is how much the youngest actually looks like him..so alike they could be twins, so I might end up putting up a photo of him. People always say how alike they are.

It is heartening to know that there are other men out there who while being abandoned by thier primary role model have gone on to do well with the lives they were dealt. I am way beyond being mad at my husband, I look at my grown kids and realise that I and I alone did a great job on all of them.

Yes there have been times when his presence would have been a benefit to us all, but you know what we did good, we did really good.

I have pity for my missing husband, he will never know the treasure he gave up, the laughter, the madness, the joy of those 3 kids and all the years that I had with them. My sincere wish is that he is well and happy.

Like I said before it is good to hear from people and men in particular who were abandoned by fathers, but still did well. So thank you for that.

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23 Jan 2012 3:37 PM:

Could I ask that in the light of an already unhelpful comment that I have received here; that any body with any information about the missing father of my 3 children, please send me a private message.

This hopefully will help wittle out any time wasting and useless comments. Bearing in mind that the children can and will be reading this thread.

I am not by nature a rude person, but neither do I suffer fools lightly.

Helpful comments about how I could extend our sereach would of course always be welcome and I thank those of you who have already sent me private messages, it was very kind of you to take the trouble.

 

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23 Jan 2012 2:29 PM:

With all due respect this isn't any of your buisness.

There is NOT I repeat NOT too much info in the post and unless you are prepared to be helpful I strongly suggest Sir that you mind your own business and keep your unhelpful comments to yourself...do you have any idea what it is like to raise 3 children alone while your husband whom you adored is missing......we have no idea if he is alive or dead and we have lived with that EVERY SINGLE DAY for year upon year. I doubt very much if you have ever had to comfort your children through such emotional upheavel as never knowing if their father is alive. And we think of him every single day.

 

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23 Jan 2012 12:00 AM:

Hello Everyone,

This is a rather delicate subject, but one that needs to be addressed.  I'm looking for my missing husband in order to divorce him. I have to show the judge that I have done everything in my power to find him and the last I heard of him he was living in the Alicante area.  I can't afford to get on a plane to come and look for him yet again as I am still supporting our youngest child Aidan, through University.  He left us in 1995 when we still lived in Pinto Way Greenwich.

Right here's some details to help you to help me.

Name Adrian Faversham d.o.b 25 July 1965.

From Wandsworth London.

Fathers name Jack, mother Barbra. Although they divorced when he was about 6yrs old. Adrian was raised by his father after his mother left him.

He is 6ft 2in tall. Had short spikey light brown hair, slim build, but very muscular. He has brown eyes (will sort out photo of him and upload it later) When we were together he had no tattoos and I very much doubt he would have them now. Adrian has a real South London accent and a wicked sense of humour.

He was a panel beater, but also a jack of all trades. He is also or was a very very keen cyclist, but liked to spend a lot of time in the pubs enjoying the company of others. He has a racuss laugh and can be the life and soul of any event.

We married in 1991, have 3 children Craig, Megan and Aidan all grown now. The children would like to see thier father again or to at lest know he is well and happy. Megan really needs her father right now as her husband was killed last year and this has devasted her life and she has often wished to see her father again. I think more than anything she wants to know that he is well.

He left me in 1995 and I have not seen him in about 8 to 9yrs after he stopped calling on us. He said he was living in Spain with friends called Gerry and Margo (they do exsist as I did meet Gerry). He last phoned me when his father died and said he was in UK to settle his fathers estatse and was returning to Spain.

At the time of the last phone call, myself & the children were living in Cantwell Road.

I need to divorce him for no other reason than it has been over 16years since he left and frankly enough is enough and as we wish to emigrate with our youngest child to USA  for our son's future I would like to tie up all the loose ends. The whole family is going as Aidan has the chance to study there and is being sponsored by a film production company, with jobs and oppurtunities for the other two older children. Obviously this is huge for us and having been single now for a long time I am more than happy to join the kids on this great adventure.

So if you know or think you know Adrian would you be so kind as to tell him about this. He will have to get in touch with me via this site to begin with as I am not prepared to give out any more details about myself or our family.  There are obviously things we know about our life and family that only the REAL Adrian would know. So as I do not want time wasters or for my children to have thier hopes dashed yet again I hope you don't mind if I keep them to myself for now.

But please tell him that I am not divorcing him to remarry, but because I wish to tie up loose ends in my life and for the children to know that thier father is ok and perhaps now after all this time he himself might be ready.

Thank you in advance for any help you might be able to give us.

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