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Moving on from Grief
Saturday, June 29, 2013

 

Moving on From Grief !

 Grief

 

Grief is such a selfish thing, a pain that is indescribable, a hurt that is so dull it penetrates every cell, every bone, every fibre of your being.

 

Yet we know that although not in the physical, that life goes on.

 

Not in the world as we know it, but life goes on.

 

We may hear or see the signs from our loved ones, yet we can not touch them, we can not feel their touch, we can not feel their kiss and somehow this makes it harder.

 

Why is this harder ? The knowing they are there ? Because it makes our grief selfish !

 

We are selfish for missing them, we are selfish for hurting, we are selfish for our grief.

 

We know they are fine, we know they are at peace, we know they have no more pain, yet we miss them and that pain does not diminish with that knowing.

 

Others see us as heartless when we are strong and when we try to remember it is not over, but just another beginning. However some just see what we gain in the physical, do they really think that all that would not be traded for one last hug, one last physical kiss.

 

I know although yes, I may have gained money and material items, would I in a heart beat swap all of that for one last hour, one last minute with both or either of my parents, of course I would.

 

For all those people that think I wouldn’t they are even more self centred and selfish than I am. What they think is a direct reflex of who they are, not who I am.
Let me tell you that losing both your parents before they reached 65 years old, is not a privileged place to be, and if you think it is, you really need to look in the mirror and get a grip.

 

If for whatever reason your life would be enhanced by not having your parents, then what lessons do you need to learn ?

 

Grief is a process and we all do it differently, just because we are different doesn’t mean we are wrong. Some make this time harder with their actions, with there words. They don’t understand that, some of us don’t like to show how we feel, but we do feel.

 

Be thoughtful about what you say because it reflex back to you, be compassionate because it comes back to you.
 
Grief

 

There are lessons in every situation good or bad, I still have trouble seeing what all of these lessons are, but one I have received loud and clear is that our reactions, draw more to us. It is not easy to remain level headed when you feel misunderstood or you hear the lies of others. I am practising holding my head up high and let it wash over me. I haven’t cracked it yet, but I will.

 

Acting from the heart is not always easy, but keep trying as I am and allow Karma do the rest.

 

Sending loads of love to all those who are in Grief. Be strong you will get through.

Grief



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Bargain or False Economy ?
Friday, June 28, 2013

 

Bargain or False Economy ?

 
After years of observation I have come to the conclusion that bargains are not always bargains.
Yes sometimes you can find real bargains, like the summer dresses I brought last year, after searching many high street shops to no avail I found three stunning dresses in the charity shop and together they cost less than one in a high street store, bargain.
Bargain

 

But like many of you I have brought things thinking it was a Bargain, just to find that it was false economy and it has cost me more in the long run. A prime example is when I brought my iPad, a friend of ours had a mobile phone shop and said he could get me a second hand iPad, only used for three weeks at a good price, has it got a slot for the Internet, I asked, yes was the answer, so I brought it. What did I find no Internet, unable to take it back that was that, but I had payed more than a new non Internet iPad for it, great. You see this Bargainturned out to be false economy, as it didn’t do the job I wanted, although it works on wi-fi which is just as good and I love it.

 

We all make these sort of errors of judgement and to be fair they don’t have a huge impact on our lives, they really don’t matter, for £20 or so, most of us can live with the mistake.

 

However then you get the major errors, lets take our landlord. Antonio has built a nice little house next to a huge shed, in a beautiful little Spanish village. We moved in a year and a half ago, and everything has been great, he is a brilliant landlord. However his false economy is now showing. The house has no solid foundations, so now huge cracks are appearing in almost every room. This is not a problem to us, but at some point in the future it maybe to him. With time and the tiny earthquakes we get here, he could find it just starts to fall down.

 

Bargain

 

By far the most outrageous Bargain hunter I have ever seen is an older gentleman we will call him Pound Coin (PC for short), moved to Spain from England, his story is totally incredible and his false economy in the four years our paths have crossed has cost him thousands.

 

Bargain

 

PC brought a plot of land, with a ruin on it, in a tiny Hamlet a 20 minute drive to the nearest shop or bar. Then this 70 year man decided he would live in a caravan until he builds his log cabin, ok ambitious but nothing wrong with that. What he did next was the start of a string of false economies, which are hard to believe.

 

The caravan, PC managed to get the agreement of the locals to put his caravan on a communal area, well done PC. But he didn’t go down the road and buy a nice little caravan, put it on the agreed spot and crack on with the building, oh no.
PC brought the largest mobile home you can, and in England. False economy. You can buy them in Spain, but this one was a good price. Really ? After shipping it to Spain for a serious amount of money, this bargain ended up costing a lot more than buying on here.
Think the neighbours where shocked when the little caravan turned out to be a 28ft mobile home.

 

 Bargain

 

PC makes regular trips back to the UK, to collect things like a 10ft canoe, why? we are miles from the sea and there are no running rivers here large enough for it. On these trips he also stocks up with groceries from Lidls, again why ? We have Lidls here and they sell the same thing, for near as dam it the same price. Mad but not really false economy.
 
PC’s biggest bargain turned into false economy on a grand scale. His car, he had been having trouble with it and being so isolated had to arrange for friends to collect him to go shopping when it was in the garage. The garage told him it was more than likely the head gasket(I am told this is a major job), but to know for sure they would have to replace it, because getting it out of the car would break it. Not prepared to pay the price the professionals charge, in his wisdom he decided to get the local Jack of all trades, master of none to do it. The result was PC being left without a car for a long period of time, relying on other people’s good will to chauffeur him about. The garage would have taken a week and lent him a car. More than a month without said car and Jack had finished, or so he said. PC got his car back just, after having fallen out with Jack, who to be fair does not like being told he is wrong, slow or anything else really. Jack had threaten to leave it in bits as he had had to wait for a part for PC’s in England, because it was cheaper.

 

Guess what the car, now complete with a new head gasket was making different noises and other things where not working. Surprise surprise it is always false economy to get major work done on a car by someone that hasn’t got a clue.

 

PC ended up limping back to the UK and getting a garage there to replace the engine. Now would it not have been easier to just get it done by a professional in the first place and it would have been an awful lot cheaper.

 

Bargain

 

So next time you are on the look out for a bargain, think twice, is it really a bargain or is it just false economy ?



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The Sun Still Shines
Tuesday, June 18, 2013

 

The Sun Still Shines

The Sun Still Shines
 
 
 
The sun still shines
The rain still fails
Time still ticks
But your not here
 
Memory’s are all we hold
No more to be made
But in our hearts you never die
Because you are with us for eternity
 
Your memory’s are lost
Ours grow strong
Never to fade
Love rules strong
 
We search to find our new normal
A normal without you
The sun reminds us we must go on
We must create new memory’s with those still here
 
The rain is like our tears
Washing the pain away
You are here in our hearts
With us always
 

The sun still shines

The rain still falls

Time still ticks

But your not here

 
The Sun Still Shines
 


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A Message
Saturday, June 15, 2013

 

LOVE

LOVE
 
 
 
Suddenly life has gone
Snatched too soon
No more arms to hold me
No lips to kiss me
But yet a peace
Peace that the pain has ended
Peace that you suffer no more
Peace that together you are once more
 
The power of soul mates to strong
To strong to keep you here
To strong to hold you with your children

To strong for any LOVE no matter how strong to break

You are both gone
But together
 
The pain is selfish pain
Never to be held in your arms again
Never to hear your voice
The overwhelming loss is pure selfish
You are together
Your love
The love
That brought me into the world
 
I am so honoured to call you
My parents

The love you showed

Unmeasurable
The safety you provided
 
You are both forever with me
In my heart
In my soul
Never to be replaced
Never to be lost
But life will never be the same
 
Thank you for being my Dad
Thank you for being my Mum

I love you

 
LOVE


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