Health and Personal Development of young adults

Foxilady said:
Saturday, December 15, 2012 @ 9:24 AM

I am sitting here wondering why i read this!

Pamela said:
Saturday, December 15, 2012 @ 9:47 AM

Que?

eggcup said:
Saturday, December 15, 2012 @ 9:50 AM

Yes, Kathy, I've been implementing this kind of thing - trying to do something towards various goals each day - including approaching agents for my book I've written on 'tenants from hell,' a bit towards my blog on this site, a bit towards Christmas - even just buying one or two presents so I can tick them off the list. The one I'm not so good at is doing a bit towards the tax return - it's hardly a 'goal' in terms of my dreams and hopes, but it's got to be done and it niggles me if I leave it and don't do one little thing towards it (got to be in at the end of January). Of course, we all have to fit these things in around all the other jobs we have to do each day, so it is a challenge.
Because of this you can go through years of not making any progress towards goals and even losing sight of having any goals, but sometimes I think it's a bit like a period of gestation - it has been for me - and then you're ready to be focused and get stuck in. Thanks for another good post, reminding us of the importance of keeping on track.

MetGB said:
Sunday, December 16, 2012 @ 9:23 AM

I believe unfortunately it is this very attitude that has society in trouble these days. Setting oneself up to constantly fail as a human being. Far more preferable, and healthy, to "go with the flow" and just bloody enjoy the privilege of life. To be constantly assessing oneself must be a pain in the bum, and a source of constant disappointment. To go through life believing we have power over everything and everyone in our day is an illusion and one I personally do not buy into. I prefer to put in some action and see what life brings on.

Kathy said:
Sunday, December 16, 2012 @ 10:46 AM

I guess it depends on what we classify as failure.If we have a challenge in front of us and have to create action towards that challenge then that situation will give us an opportunity to learn what ever the outcome. Personally I see value in challenge and have experienced some of the most rewarding experiences in my life where I had to make major changes to move from a negative situation into an unknown. All of us are faced with the challenges of life and it would be unrealistic to expect there to be none. It is really how we respond that which will determines how our life moves forward.

In essence I firmly believe that the
Obstacles and challenges we face are never the deciding factor about how our life is going to turn out. The way 2013 and the rest of our life will unfold; will be decided, by how we choose to respond to the inevitable challenges, setbacks and roadblocks, which will cross our path.
Believe me ....they will be there !

I personally do not continually assess myself in that I look at something from the point of view of success or failure. If I did that then I might crawl into a hole and hide away. What I do is try to keep realism about aspects of my life and keep a purpose in my head of the Why ,where and When.
Also when I talk about success then success is different for different people as we all have different goals in life.
My goal right now is to get two teenagers through school and on to the next stage. That may sound really simple but if you knew the history of my older daughter and where we have come from then for me it is a challenge.

Patricia (Campana) said:
Sunday, December 16, 2012 @ 6:37 PM

I understand perfectly what you mean, Kathy.

If we just plough ahead without ever asking about the "whys" then we might as well be donkeys with blinkers on. Indeed man many people just use the "doing" (the treadmill) as some kind of anaesthetic so as not to even think. I mean, thinking could be bad for your health! Of course they are engaging in "avoidance".

Sadly, Kathy, a lot of people never ask themselves any questions at all.

Sometimes we take on too much, and all too often we live under the illusion we have control over everything. We do have to cut ourselves some slack now and then.

What is totally true is that even the smallest decision we take, about anything, will configure the "tomorrow" (even the next few hours!
The trick is to listen to ourselves (inside) and prioritise those decisions.

I used to be a lot harder on myself. Well, I realise that there is more to life than having the words "she was hard on herself" inscribed on my headstone. LOL.

So, everyone, go a bit easier on yourselves. Introspection is good, in small doses. Over-thinking, I have found, can deafen us to that little voice which is telling us what the decision needs to be at that given time.