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Father Gerald
05 July 2019 @ 14:08

Father Gerald

As the day of the funeral drew closer, family and friends went to meet the vicar. Now that was an experience, I walked into his very cluttered office, a desk in the middle surrounded by boxes and files. When he joined me I was surprised to find a South African version of the character Rowan Atkinson played in 'Four Weddings and a Funeral'.  
I was the last person to meet with him, so I was just putting meat on the bones of what others had told him. 

He was very keen to tell me about himself, moving from South Africa and the fact that he had been widowed just two years before. Then he had moved to the UK and not unpacked yet, I could see that!
He then went on to tell me that my Dad would remarry within a year, just as he had done. It was shocking to be told this before the funeral of my Mother had even taken place, I didn't know how to react, it was so inappropriate. Of course, if my Dad did decide to remarry that would be up to him, but now a total stranger deciding for him all I could say was 'REALLY!'
As soon as I walked out of the house I suddenly found the situation funny, giggling to myself as I walked to my car, I thought how The Church of England must be a bit short of vicars to have this man in their ranks. I wondered if he was even capable of doing a service, time would tell.
Everything was now in place hymns and the music was chosen, venue for the wake booked, harpist for the wake booked, crematorium sorted, speeches were written and flowers order. 
All we had to do now was wait for the dreaded day to arrive.

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Besss said:
08 July 2019 @ 18:26

As a Church of England vicar was to conduct the funeral for you, I imagine your father, his 'family and friends' and you were believers and regular churchgoers, supporting your local churches, and familiar with 'how to conduct services' maybe with very different vicars to this one? It is hurtful not to be able to receive the spiritual support you need at such a sad time from your church. The Church of England is indeed short of vicars,with low pay they have to be very dedicated to give up their life to God and helping others and come from lots of different backgrounds.
Sometimes people who never pray or darken the door of a church, maybe even do not believe in God, expect a stereotypical old- fashioned-film vicar to exist in a vacuum and materialise to conduct a wedding or funeral : then disappear as if this is their only function. Christian love humbly serves these people too, that is what it is about.

samm3333 said:
08 July 2019 @ 18:44

Besss- Thank you for your comment.
My Mum was a Sunday school teacher for many years and although I do not follow a church, I do respect all different beliefs and those who dedicate their lives to them. I have in my life met many different Church of England vicars and have found all of them to be very special caring people. Sadly this vicar, although compassionate lacked tact. The next time I met him he had even lost his compassion, keep reading and all will become clear.

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