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Was going to Spain from start to finish but now I, Luca have taken over

Was about researching about where to look & about living in Spain I am here. So was for anyone interested here are the good & bad things that happened to me. But now I (Luca) will tell you about my experiences, both very bad, better and good.

Focussed again & reading blogs
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 4:56 PM

 Now that I have made the decision to return to Spain & to continue property hunting, the 8 weeks or so before I return seems an age away but still, we have Christmas & the New Year to look forward to. It does though seem such a waste of time though from now until January.

I would never have thought that when I decided to follow my dream in June that it would have taken so long. I really thought it was just a matter of popping over, Saying "Yes we'll have that one" & would be esconced in Spain in early Autumn. But as written, early disappointments have prevented the dates of first September then January not to be possible. Perhaps the big mistake I did make that after I decided to emigrate was to give plenty of time, in fact to much time for all my associations to find my replacements. Again I was thinking of others & putting them before me or my wife something I've tended to do all my life. I don't regret at least I have a clear concience.

My kids I can deal with as I know that they will visit me often (possibly more so, as they tend to be more lumbered with me in England!), my sister & my cousin will come regularly (I think & hope). I already have a couple of replacements for me, just another few but if need to I'll look after them short term using my computer skills. I went to a meeting yesterday where I was just a guest, but lots of my friends implored me to stay, giving me many reasons, I know we've heard them all before. But they won't put me off my dream this time. I have plan B !!!!!

Now as to the blogs on here & I know I am wandering in strange territory here but  there are definately ones I look for first & would feel a big loss without reading further instalments of them.

Tamara you are my guiding Star & your help & guidance are superb. I love your settling in, your observations & sometimes your shared inner thoughts.

Eggcup just love your unfolding story & I know it's gonna turn for the better soon, at least Eggie we know the "warts"  & how perhaps a longer period of time is needed to adjust.

Castillos a fairly new blog writer, your ladies views are enlightening (well to me as man anyway), I hope you expand your views.

Norman Parker I admire the way you have picked yourself up, I totally 100% don't agree with your early life & terrible crimes, but I have been taught to forgive although never forget.

I also love the returned messages. There are others I may have overlooked so I may have to edit this blog, but qite honestly there are other blogs that don't interest me & rarely open.

Then are of course there are the many replies with words of encouragement for me not only to realise my lifelong dream but also to continue writing this blog.

To all of you thank you, I feel, as several of you also feel, that the blogs are so much more civilised rather than forums where they tend to rip writers to pieces & there is often little decorum. 

 



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eggcup said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 6:02 PM

Here here, Gerald, about the Forums. Occasionally the odd person strays over to have a go on the Blogs, but I've told them the 'arguing' belongs more on the Forum! We're trying to do something else here. A really good thing about your blog is that it is current and real and shows people how even this first stage is not straightforward. Forewarned is forearmed. Good luck with the next stage and keep letting us know how it goes. Eggie (I've started to use the name you gave me!)


james said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 7:06 PM

Gerald,
Stay positive the rewards are worth it, and not sure eggcup will love her new nickname as in Scottish dialect it means bad tempered LOL.

Time will fly past and it will be flight time before you know it.
I am heading out a week on Saturday and cannot wait, and for the weather I do not care LOL.


Gerald said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 7:14 PM

Thanks James, are you off for good? Wish I was coming with you, but with my big coat & a hat this time.
Fortunately Eggcup is not Scottish (she is very Welsh, I think!) but I wouldn't want to hurt her, she had enough of that in the first couple of years livng in Spain & she doesn't mind (see above).


Tamara said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 7:20 PM

Thanks for your kind words Gerry. I'm really glad that my blog is of some use. Actually l worry sometimes that not enough has gone wrong for me - both because it's fun to write about problems, and because it makes my story look so smooth and idyllic! Trouble is, it has been!!! Well, so far anyway. That's why l too enjoy Eggie's blog so much, to keep me rooted in what could go wrong. I suppose that most people's experience is somewhere in between .... So as long as people read both mine AND Eggie's, they can take aspects of both.

I think the most valuable thing you can do between now and your January visit, is research every village between Nerja and Colmenar, including east of Lake Viñuela. Use Google Earth to "walk" through the streets, narrow it down to three or four villages, and then ask on the Forums. If you are decided on the Axarquía region, go on Facebook and join the Axarquía Local Information Group. REALLY helpful bunch. Get the inside track on your shortlist of villages - how many bakeries, is there a ferretería (ironmongers), how many English-speakers, are there free Spanish lessons, etc. then, when you come out in January you'll have a really targeted, focussed visit.

Good luck.


Tamara said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 7:27 PM

Have sent you a PM about dates.


Tamara said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 7:27 PM

Have sent you a PM about dates.


Gerald said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 8:40 PM

Thanks Tamara, have to admit I did not think or know about Axarquia being on Facebook as I rarely use Facebook but your suggetion is so good. So good in fact that it makes one think "Why didn't I think of that?"
I did recall in your early days you did have few minor problems, but I think seeing how things ran basically so smoothly with you gave me the wrong comprehension.
Think if I'd read Eggie's blog first my attitude would have probably been far different although it wouldn't have stopped me.
I have PM'ed you back Tamara thank you.


james said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 9:17 PM

No Gerald just another short visit sadly this time, before I go in for more surgery to my damaged plumbing system, the surgery is planned to happen before Xmas and the a month or so of rest and I am back out late January again.

Hence while I wait I am working more from home with a few days out for meeting etc etc.

So have more time on my hands to read Blogs and comment and like you I have my favourites also.

My repeated comments about being positive are based on my experience with my health issues as I believe that is what has sustained me, and the strong believe that there are others worse of than I am.

I have a loving family and my dream to spend as much time as I can in my beloved Spain will keep me going.

As Tamara say's spend time researching it is NEVER time wasted.

James




Gerald said:
Sunday, November 11, 2012 @ 10:11 PM

Oh James I am sorry although I like you, strongly believe that a good positve mental attitude overcomes most things & sometimes it is a better (or at least as Good) remedy for health issues.
A loving family & a super dream simply compliments them.
I hope, No! I know, your surgery will be positive as you are.
2013 will be good........ Just keep smiling!!


Patricia (Campana) said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 12:46 AM

Hear, hear, again Gerald.

"To all of you thank you, I feel, as several of you also feel, that the blogs are so much more civilised rather than forums where they tend to rip writers to pieces & there is often little decorum. "

I could not agree more, Gerald. I cannot understand why people feel they have to be unpleasant to otehrs.

Indeed every experience is filled with both light and shade. So will yours, Gerald, but I wish you more light than shade. AS we say in Ireland: "may the road rise up to meet you".

I admire Tamara, Eggcup and you too. Your thoughts and musings will be useful to so many.

When I think over my varied and extraordinary experiences over several decades in Spain, well, maybe one day I'll get them down on paper. Being a rather private sort of person I find it not so easy to describe the experiences, whether joyful, good, indifferent or just perplexing.

At least I am satisfied to know that I did help a myriad of people (in real life) who came over to Spain to live, temporarily or permanently. My husband called our place "the Consulate". Heh heh.

Patricia









Patricia (Campana) said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 1:00 AM

You did give me a smile, Eggcup!

"Occasionally the odd person strays over to have a go on the Blogs, but I've told them the 'arguing' belongs more on the Forum! "

The operative word there is "odd", Eggcup LMAO. Befuddled, maybe.


Gerald said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 1:01 AM

Oh Patricia, go on start a blog we could always do with a super bit of Irish Blarney.
My Brother in Law comes from Sligo & I've heard him use that expression as well, "may the road rise up to meet you".
And having a ready made "Consulate" & Consul perhaps he could help you to write it.
I do know that your comments are always worth readings & highly valued.
Oh how I love everyone's so curteous replies.


Patricia (Campana) said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 1:12 AM

Thank you, Gerald. Gur a mile maith agat.

It is truly a rare pleasure to be on these blogs.

I know I can be rather objective and analytical often, or so I am told. Which is why I like honesty.

I suppose we have to try to remember the tremendous, desperate unhappiness and bitterness in the lives of some people, which sours their exchanges with others, and which has nothing to do with their move be it to Spain, the Sahara or Greenland.




Gerald said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 1:58 AM

true Patricia, life is to short to be sour or grumpy (though sometimes I am!) & I try to remember as you say ..............
I've just been across to that other place & there are such a lot of sad souls over their a quick count gave me at least a dozen. Just had to come back to the Blogs quickly to restore my faith....


elviriadreamer said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 5:15 AM

The only person I've ever come across arguing on these forums in my 5yrs of reading is Eggcup(and trolls)...he/she spat her dummy out because someone didn't share the same opinion as him/her. Boy did she erupt on the forums, over nothing and her poor behaviour was pulled up sharpish, by a few.

In fact, he/she must have a very short fuse, because less than a fortnight later, he/she exhibited the same poor behaviour because I did not agree with his/her opinion berating someone calling him weird or a liar because he had stated he did not care what people thought of him. So, if you share a different opinion to Eggcup, be prepared to be on the receiving end of a hissy fit.

The only sourness I have seen in 5yrs was Patricia being very nasty to a nice lady who had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness. I couldn't believe a woman could be so cruel. I was disgusted as were others. Patricia didn't post for a while after that...I think someone told her she was vile (I will look for the blog to verify the name she was called).

Gerald those dozen poor souls are probably grateful you remain on the blogs...judgemental people don't go down too well on forums (As Patricia and Eggcup found out). Oh and just remember, one of those dozen poor souls might of had useful advice for your move or could be someone you need help from one day...I doubt they'll help you now though. Who would blame them.

PS. Was that a real dozen or bakers dozen?




elviriadreamer said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 5:31 AM

PPS. Sorry to be pedantic, but there's only one s in focused.

We like to keep all the spelling mistakes in that other place.

There should be NO spelling mistakes on the blogs...after all, it's full of perfect beings unlike the other place full of sad souls. I note you create posts there though, trying to mingle with the sad souls...very odd or hypocritical!

AND no, don't worry you are not a snob...I come from snobs and you are nothing like them. So rest assured.

Chin up, keep blogging and remember IT RAINS IN SPAIN!




elviriadreamer said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 5:46 AM

EGGCUP...Who are you to tell people arguing (which you do regularly when people disagree with you) belongs on the forums?

Who do you think you are? You are just "A" poster on EOS. The same as everyone else.

Unless you are Justin/Susan you have no say, fortunately. It's not your site...you just have a little clicque...nothing more or less. You don't rule what others can or can't say or where they can say it.

I would get off that high horse before you fall or are pushed.


Gerald said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 8:49 AM

Sorry Elviria but I don't require advice fron arumentative & condescending people so I'm certainly not losing sleep over that & spelling misteakks are aloud.
Not a snob eh! that's re-assuring, with two degrees with honours, a Doctorate, thousands in the bank, a million pound house with electric gates, numerous servants, gardeners & lackey's thought I'd have come in that bracket - I am disappointed.
Dozen? could be 15!
Damn now I'm arguing.


Patricia (Campana) said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 1:02 PM

Pay no attention, Gerald.

I have no idea what this Elviria person is even talking about. Or who....

There were some great posters on the forum some time back, (thinking of Orinoco, Jon007 and others too numerous to mention) but like myself, they all just left because of the nastiness.




eggcup said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 2:40 PM

Yes, I'm trying to not get embroiled with this person either, although I did just put her straight on the Forum after she had another nasty go. There's a fine line between ignoring and putting up with, and sometimes one can't help but react. But she did promise to stop reading my blog and then went right on reading it. Okay: got to get another one in (I can't resist when the temptation is so great. Focussed can be spelt with one 's' or two and it is 'clique' not 'clicque'. This just illustrates how puerile it is to start correcting people's spelling and grammar as it is quite easy to make 'typos,' and we really don't need people to inform us of them. Like you, I too have a Degree, First class Masters and Doctorate (she's got us bragging now). Maybe she'd like to tell us what her credentials are that equip her to spend her time criticising others all the time, whilst producing nothing herself.


Patricia (Campana) said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 3:33 PM

LOL Eggcup.

Don't know if you ever heard of "projection" (a term in psychology). Sad people who try to shift their shortcomings on to others....

Let's just consider ourselves lucky we don't have to deal every day with this type of person in real life. You know what I mean.




Bruca said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 5:35 PM

Gerald I am very much enjoying your blog as well as Tamara's and eggcups. I am a newbie to communicating in this way and have tried to leave you a message before about the October rains (don't worry they only last 2 weeks!) I hope you continue with your posts and don't get disheartened by bickering because they make my day when I read them!



Gerald said:
Monday, November 12, 2012 @ 6:12 PM

Thank you Patricia, Eggie & Bruca.
It's good Bruca that we have enticed another person to read our blogs, the more they are read the more we enjoy writing them.
Welcome to the "clicque"
Eggie I have sent you a PM (wonder if that makes anyone self conscious?).


Maddiemack said:
Tuesday, November 13, 2012 @ 5:50 PM

Count me in as a member of the 'clique' although I only have a BA Honours Degree...lol. Gerald, I am one of those you have spent precious time focussing on when you probably should have been doing other things and, for that, I am eternally grateful. The information you provided me with concerning your own experience has 'saved' my son and his best friend from making a terrible mistake. Bless you. We met Tamara in Colmenar a couple of weeks ago and she is a lovely lady. Eggcup's blogs, so far, have reminded us of the type of property we do NOT want to rent. Thank you all for keeping it REAL.


Gerald said:
Tuesday, November 13, 2012 @ 5:59 PM

Brilliant Maddie, of course there is no clique I only mentioned that & the mis-spelling to prove a point.
on ITV3 Law & OrderUK last night was story about a poor girl used for - no I'll PM you, it's not for public use. I am to meet Tamara In January & believe you me I cannot wait! I love Eggie's blogs & all the others but everyone has gone quiet at the moment. I do miss these "story" blogs


Patricia (Campana) said:
Tuesday, November 13, 2012 @ 6:33 PM

Hello Gerald, and you too Maddie.

We're here, Gerald. Just got to find the time to log in.
I too hope to maybe meet up with you all some day. Say, Gerald, hope you have deep pockets. My favourite drink is champagne......

Knew you were kidding about the clique.
¡Somos los mejores!


Gerald said:
Tuesday, November 13, 2012 @ 7:26 PM

Yea, the more I think about this meeting up the more it appeals to me & when I'm Installed in Spain I will try to find a central point where all my friends will be invited.
All friends (& even friendly enemies will be invited), but not unfriendly enemies! Maybe even Justin or Susan could pop in to buy a round or two after all we do "assist" their finances maybe!


Patricia (Campana) said:
Tuesday, November 13, 2012 @ 8:41 PM

I wouldn't bank on it, Gerald.


Dick Saucepan123@gmail.com said:
Monday, December 10, 2012 @ 9:44 PM

Best of luck. I ave just moved to nerja. Lovely place. Email me please when you move back.


Tamara said:
Tuesday, December 18, 2012 @ 7:55 AM

Gosh, I hadn't realised the responses on this blog had got so "unnecessary"!!! Just popped back because, reading Gerry's latest a second time he talked about answers to this edition so I came back to have a look. It's gone a bit heavy since I commented days ago :-(. Not sure what to say - ignore it folks and hang in there Gerry.


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