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My Top 5 Things I Love About Living In Spain.
Sunday, February 1, 2015 @ 10:23 AM

When I first moved to Spain eleven years ago my life was very different to how it is now. I originally moved here on my own. In those days I didn't have anything depending on me for its survival, animal or human. It was just me. Whenever I contemplate this my first thought is how much things can change in such a short period of time. This is swiftly followed by my second thought which is the realisation that actually eleven years is not such a short period of time at all and then this is inevitably followed by subsequent thoughts along the lines of 'Eleven years? Really? Eleven years? ELEVEN? Time passes SO quickly!' and 'Has it really been THAT long?' and then eventually comes the inevitable wake up call, 'OMG! I'm old! That makes me so old!'

But really I'm very fortunate. In the (henceforward to remain unquantified) years since I moved here 'just me' has expanded into a wonderful family. We are blessed with our two fantastic little boys and our gorgeous dog, Joey. We even have two fish called 'Happiness Friendly' and 'Goodie Baddie', not named by me I hasten to add. And to top it all off we are lucky enough to live here in Estepona, which is a wonderful place to live. 

So what is it that makes living here such a good thing? Here are my top five best things about living in Spain. 

 

1. Family values.
Spain has a reputation for being a family friendly place and it is. Children are especially well catered for in the local community. Where we live there is an abundance of well maintained and colourful play parks so there is always somewhere to go. Children are also welcomed in most restaurants and we don't feel the pressure of trying to keep our children 'seen but not heard' when we go out for dinner. I love that a sense of family is so highly valued here and that families support and help each other, living as an extended unit. Children, parents and grandparents can often be seen out and about together. This isn't always a benefit of course, especially when supermarket shopping necessitates having to slalom up and down the aisles while attempting to negotiate whole families deciding what to buy! Paediatrician's waiting rooms can frequently be standing room only as multiple generations of families wait for their little treasure's first weigh in. But I love this sense of togetherness. Coming from a rather scattered and small family myself it actually makes me a little jealous. 

 

2. Urbanisation life.
Living in an urbanisation can offer a sense of community as well as some convenient sources of sport and entertainment. In our urbanisation we have a padel court, a swimming pool, a play park, trampolines and a football pitch as well as some lovely gardens to walk around and play in. Admittedly it costs us the equivalent of a whole year's gym membership in community fees each month(!) but on the plus side all of the facilities are easily accessible and we do use them a lot. Living in an urbanisation can also be very sociable. Neighbours frequently convene in chatty clusters around the grounds and organise social events. The children play together and everybody knows each other. There can be a reassuring sense of community in urbanisation life which is sadly becoming an increasingly rare occurrence these days. 

 

3. Outdoor things
Living in Spain presents unending opportunities for 'outdoorsy' pursuits, be they organised activities such as horse riding, paragliding or buggy safaries or simpler, more spontaneous pleasures such as walking or running along the beach (especially out of season) or climbing up the nearest mountain. Whether you have children or you don't there's no denying that the warmer climate allows a much healthier, more outdoorsy life. 

 

4. Travelling and exploring new places
Now obviously a person can travel and explore wherever they are, it's not exclusive to living in Spain. However there is something about discovering an undiscovered beach or a new town or landmark here that I just love. Last year we went to Extremadura for the first time and have since enjoyed several family jaunts up that way, exploring new towns, villages, castles, lakes and all sorts of other fun stuff whenever we go. Something I especially appreciate about many places in Spain is that they retain a sense of identity. You can walk through a town and you won't find only the same duplicated chain stores that can make them seem like faceless clones of every other town. Nor are small towns and villages turning into ghost towns as a result of superstores that lure people away from dying high streets that are full of closed down, boarded up shops as can be the case in other places. In the village of Orellana de la Sierra where we stay whenever we go to Extremadura the community gathers around the small local shop. It is full of chatter, everybody knows everybody else and the locals support their local shop rather than abandoning it in order to seek cheaper prices and a wider selection in a megastore outside of the local community. The opposite is happening in the UK where small towns and villages are suffering due to the arrival of superstores which frequently sound a death knoll for small businesses. 

 

5. Learning the language
Obviously living in Spain presents you with the perfect opportunity to learn a new language, but more than that, you are able to use what you have learned in practical situations every day. There are those (rather annoying!) people who have an innate ability to pick up new languages relatively easily. I have friends who are natural linguists and who speak 6 or 7 languages seemingly effortlessly. For the rest of us though (and that definitely includes me) we need to work hard and must continually practise in order to develop our competency and fluency when learning a new language. When I was at school I learned French and even studied it at A Level. I was really rather good. However, lack of opportunities to use it practically (Clacton on Sea was never a hotbed of French speakers!) resulted in my French vocabulary gradually dwindling away to nothing. It did come in handy once though many years later. I was in the USA and on a visit to Alcatraz prison where the only information leaflets available on the boat ride to the island were in French and I was able to read them. This was of very small consolation though especially when I compared this rather measly accomplishment to my previous level of being able to speak in detail about the life of Louis XIV (with dates and everything!) It was hardly a fitting denouement to my years of study. Consequently a major benefit for me of living here is that it gives me the chance to learn, use and more importantly remember a new language.

 

Of course there are negative sides to living here, as there are to living anywhere. For one, I can't stand that every time I leave the house in the Summer I have to smother myself and two very reluctant children in sun cream. Also the population here is quite transient; people come here to live for a short time and then move on. We have made some wonderful friends who we now see only occasionally because they have moved back to the UK or to another country. However, the positives far outweigh the negatives and we have made a happy life for ourselves here. But everyone is different and people have different opinions. These are the five positives that I personally value. You may well have different ideas. Perhaps you agree with me or maybe you don't. Share your thoughts via the comments box below and let us know your positives or negatives about living in Spain. 

 

So, it's over to you.......

 



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26 Comments


SandrainAlgorfa said:
Sunday, February 1, 2015 @ 10:42 AM

Great article, Marianne, and I agree with everything except the urbanisation point. Obviously you love on a great urbanisation, but here there are very few permanent residents, and there's a 'them and us' attitude between two groups of residents, although we do also have some very good friends.

Personally, I would never advise anyone to buy on an urbanisation, and I would love to move into the village and mingle more with the Spanish people.


missmlh said:
Sunday, February 1, 2015 @ 10:49 AM

Thanks Sandra. We do live on a very good urbanisation. The people that live here are predominantly Spanish and it is made up of permanent residents, not holiday homes. I know some urbanisations are very different and are ghost towns off season and then packed and noisy in the Summer, but we are very lucky to live in a good one with very friendly neighbours and it is definitely one thing that I enjoy about living here. I wouldn't advise anyone to buy on an urbanisation either, but then again at the moment I wouldn't advise anyone to buy anywhere! Thanks for your comment.
:-)


Emmy said:
Sunday, February 1, 2015 @ 2:27 PM

Hi, this is a great article, I agree with it completely! We also live in Estepona with 2 kids (smaller than yours though). We've been only here for a year but planning to stay "forever". I really love being here, just sometimes struggling as most of the time I'm alone with the two little ones as we have no friends yet and I only speak a little Spanish. Also it could be devastating to see how hard my boy is trying to make friends at the play park, but we are still seen as aliens here:( I hope one day it will change...


missmlh said:
Sunday, February 1, 2015 @ 3:57 PM

Hi Emmy, I'm glad you enjoyed the article. I'm sure you will make friends soon but I know how difficult it can be when you first move to a new place especially if you only speak a little Spanish. You chose a great place to live! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. x


Tracey said:
Tuesday, February 3, 2015 @ 9:49 AM

Great article, you´re absolutely right a big negative is the transient nature of the place, I have thought about starting a forever club, but then a few of my suggested members left so there´s no guarantees! Live in Estepona too, and you´re absolutely right its an amazing place to live and seems to be getting better year on year. Love it, great to hear someone else so positive about what we have here.


missmlh said:
Tuesday, February 3, 2015 @ 12:53 PM

Thank you for your lovely comment Tracey. Estepona is a wonderful place to live. It is changing so much and in a positive way. Thanks to the Mayor there are new things are being installed and created all of the time. I love it too!


janicehill said:
Wednesday, February 4, 2015 @ 10:37 PM

Some good positive points on why Spain has the feel-good factor.
I would like to add how easy it is to drive around this beautiful country on good roads that are virtually empty, once you get away from the busy coastal roads. It is so easy to get from place to place, and the scenery is just stunning.



missmlh said:
Wednesday, February 4, 2015 @ 10:59 PM

Yes, that is another good thing about living here. So many things to be grateful for!
:-)


FIREBLADE said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 8:41 AM

Great positive post ...Life is what you make it !


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 9:04 AM

I agree! Thank you so much for commenting!
:-)


David said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 9:47 AM

I'm leaving Thailand after 7 years and intend living in Spain. What part I do not yet know.

As a single pensioner I am looking forward to a whole new life, although I do not want to live in a gated community.

Your article was very interesting and re-assuring.

Many thanks.


Finisterre said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 9:49 AM

Lovely article. Agree with all of your points and would add the clincher for me - the weather. I know that's implied by the 'outdoors' bit but to me it deserves a separate fanfare of its own! We live in Seville with two small girls and no family support, and both work full-time so life is quite hectic and tough at times, but so often I'm driving to or from work and stressed out and suddenly become aware that I'm quietly very happy and it's because the sun is blazing down. That's why we left England, much as I love and miss it, and why six years later we've just bought our first house here.

Are you and your partner both English, Marianne? We are and there's definitely a blog post's worth of material in the pros and cons of that!


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 9:51 AM

Thank you for you comment David. I wish you well with your move and I'm sure you will be very happy here. I'm glad you enjoyed my post.


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 9:55 AM

Hi Finisterre. The weather definitely is a good point but more so at this time of year for me. In the Summer I find the heat can get a bit too much and the sun cream thing drives me up the wall on a daily basis! But yes, you are right, the blue skies and sunshine certainly have a positive effect on your mood.

Yes, we are both English and I think you're right, there is a lot of potential for blog material in that!

Thanks for joining in with the discussion. I appreciate your comment.



SHIREEN said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 11:03 AM

Hello, a very interesting article & nice to know that you are happy & settled there.
May I suggest please that you & your family include helping the many animals who are in often in desperate need through the animal charities in your area, the Spanish hunting dogs (galgos) really suffer & often have a grusome end, they are treated almost as vermin the way they are go rid of..it would be kind if you & your family could help & in the refuges too.. For them thank you...Shireen


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 11:09 AM

Hi Shireen. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I am aware of the terrible situations that many animals endure. Our own dog is a rescue dog who had an awful start to life and so we do help animal charities and shelters in the area and will continue to do so. Thank you for your obvious compassion towards them. Keep sharing your message. x


graeme13 said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 12:11 PM

What i love about your article the most is....there are more positives than negatives!!!...its usually the other way round...

Totally enjoyed reading your experiences!!...Personally...i cant fault where i live, having grown up in South Africa and spent 7 years in London....

Spain is now our home for last 9 years and will be for the future!!...

All the best Marianne...will look forward to your next articles full of positives!!

Cheers
Graeme


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 12:21 PM

Thanks Graeme. It's so lovely to hear such an appreciative, positive response. You've given me a warm, fuzzy feeling inside!
:-)


Kate said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 12:26 PM

Interesting blog. Regarding the sun protection - I have been advised by a plastic surgeon that we Northern Europeans need to apply sunscreen every day of the year, not just in the summer. The same plastic surgeon who removed a cancerous cyst from my face last year. I have lived here in spain for nigh on 8 years and hadn't applied sun screen religiously every day and was paying the price.
By the way, another advantage of living here is the excellent health care.


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 12:34 PM

Hi Kate. You're right, the health care here is excellent. I understand what you are saying about the sunscreen and clearly your experience proves that what you say is true. In the Winter though I suppose we expose much less of our skin to the sun and so people don't think about applying cream. For women, and some men, facial moisturisers offer some sort of SPF for everyday protection. It is definitely something to think about. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.


Maggie said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 3:56 PM

What a lovely post.... Thank you. We have our holiday home within a gated Community and would agree with what has been said. We have been coming out to our home every school holiday for the last 3 years and glad we have invested in buying on an Urb.We have got to know the Spanish way of life, all the do's and don'ts and beginning to learn the language. Our resident neighbours keep an eye on things for us when we are back in the UK so at present , for a first buy , is ideal. But ....There is definitely a " Them and Us " feel. So in years to come would love to have somewhere in a small traditional Spanish Town without the shutters twitching !!!


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 5:46 PM

Thank you Maggie, that is a lovely comment. I'm glad you are happy here and I wish you all the best for the future and hope you get to move to a small town and fulfill your dream!


missmlh said:
Saturday, February 7, 2015 @ 5:46 PM

Thank you Maggie, that is a lovely comment. I'm glad you are happy here and I wish you all the best for the future and hope you get to move to a small town and fulfill your dream!


JB Madrid said:
Sunday, February 8, 2015 @ 10:41 AM

Hi. I moved to Madrid in 2004 with my Spanish girlfriend. At first, I really liked the newness of it all. We got married and had two lovely kids. But we recently moved back to the UK. I think that a lot depends on which area of Spain you move to. There is a huge difference between living in Madrid and living in the rest of Spain. Madrid people (in general) are very insular, conservative and dont always to ake well to outsiders. They can be unbelieveably rude and unhelpful in shops, on customer service and while driving. It is one of the reasons we moved back home so that our kids would not grow up like that. After 1o years living there, we only have a handful of friends who we will keep in touch with. Most of these friends were made through ourm kids over the last two or three years. We lived in an urbanisation of 17 houses, with PADEL, swimming pool and garden. When we suggested putting in a swing and slide for the children, it was almost voted down and several of the residents declined to speak to us after that. This gives you a micro picture of what we had to deal with over there. Also, as is so common with buying a house in Spain, we had teerible problems with the house. We went to court but the judgement went against us. What seemed like a clear cut case of being told in the plans that we were getting a concrete roof when in fact we got a metal structure roof. As they say "only in Spain". Even our lawyer told us that it is possible that the judge was bribed. Then, a few months before we returned home, I went to sell my car. I met the two guys and showed them the car. They then produced a knife and stole the car. To cut a long story short, they are now in jail. I got the car back slightly damaged but the insurance paid for the repair. I suppose this could happen anywhere, and it could. But if it happened in the UK, I am sure that your dealings with the `police and the law in general would be a different world compared to Spain. When the car was stolen, I ran accross the road and found two cvops having a coffee in a petrol station. Literally 1 minute after the car was taken. Do you think they jumped in their car to pursue the thieves? Nope. They sat me down. Asked me for the details of the car. My details. What direction the car went off in. Then they radioed it in. They dsaid that other patrol cars would be on the watch out for my car. But I tried to tell them that they could go after it. But no. Basically, things that we hold important in the UK such as consumer protection and the law, simply are not rtreated the same in Spain. I know that we could have had a nicer time if we had lived in a coastal area rather than in Madrid. But this is a warning for anyone considering moving to Madrid. You need to be prepared for some serious frustration when trying to assert your rights. as they say in Madrid "Es lo que hay", meaning "thats just the way it is". This is one of their most popular replies to being questioned about why they have done something which is either unfair or illegal. Even the phone and power companies steal and overcharge like crazy. Its really a different world. We are so happy to be back in the UK. Even my wife, from Tenerife, is glad to be out of Madrid. To sum it all up, we had many nice times in Spain, but they were almost always when we travelled to the north of Spain, to Barcelona or to the Canaries. Unfortunately, Madrid was a big disappointment.


missmlh said:
Sunday, February 8, 2015 @ 10:50 AM

You certainly had a very bad experience in Madrid and I'm glad that you are finally settled now back in the UK. People can have bad or good experiences anywhere and I have friends who have very happy lives in Madrid and others who have had very bad experiences in the area I live. It really can happen anywhere. I have only visited Madrid, I have never lived there but I'm sure the experiences living in a big city will be different to those living in a small coastal town. Thank you for sharing your experiences JB.


Pintor said:
Wednesday, January 20, 2016 @ 10:55 PM

Some very good points that can be obvious but non the less overlooked. UK is fast becoming a place where you do your own thing and as you wrote the family is paramount in Spain something we've lost


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