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A Foot in Two Campos

Thoughts from a brand new home-owner in the Axarquía region of Málaga. I hope there might be some information and experiences of use to other new purchasers, plus the occasional line to provoke thought or discussion.

38 - A Spang-ly Spang-lish Christmas
Tuesday, December 25, 2012 @ 8:29 PM

Traditions from home and abroad mingled this year, and new traditions began as old ones were put away.  The warm sun made this a very different Christmas from those of previous years, plus a new village, new neighbours, and the first Christmas in 54 years without Mum.

The elves on the window-sill are as old as I am, and the porcelain choristers too.  But the Santa hanging from a rope tied to my balcony is new, and the candles in every room are there as much in case of power cuts as for any seasonal purpose.

A first for me was buying a ticket for the El Gordo lottery, and watching the TV programme on Saturday morning to see if my neighbours and I were all to be rich.  The system of distributing tickets around the country generally means that luck falls not just individually but on a whole village.  This time it was not to be us, but hearing the schoolchildren singing out the numbers and the prizes was a bizarre experience.

Singing carols with the Alegría Singers felt like old times and reminded me of my time with Goldsmiths Choral Union, performing at the Albert Hall every Christmas.  This year the venue was a little different, but Moreno’s Bar in Puente Don Manuel gave us mince pies for our efforts, which had never happened at the Albert Hall!

Going out for a Christmas morning walk is a revived tradition – throughout the 80s and 90s Mum and I were in the habit of taking a three- or four-night hotel break for Christmas, and with no cooking responsibilities would always don walking boots and cover five or six miles before lunch (with Mum’s hip-flask charged with whisky!).  So it felt like an old tradition to pull on the boots this year, though it made a change to be out at Christmas in a light jumper rather than wrapped in seven layers against a cold biting wind.

And as the now-familiar path took me towards the Enchanted Place, a surprise – yesterday’s very hot sun plus some night-time drizzle had combined to bring out the first of the almond blossom (surely earlier than usual?).  Very symbolic ..... new beginnings, the cycle of life, turning the corner towards a new season.  A delightful and unexpected bonus, and despite the analogies fighting for space in my mind, it made the walk a happy one, not a sad one.

After my walk it was back home to open presents and to raise a toast to Mum.  The last few Christmases had been tough for her as she became frailer, but a picture of her in her dressing gown opening her presents last year will always be a special one.  Her appetite had largely gone so Christmas lunch consisted of just a few tempting morsels - a sliver of smoked salmon, a couple of prawns, and a mouthful of a favourite locally-made game pie.

So my Christmas lunch at Bar CO2 was a return to an old tradition I’d missed for several years.  As English as it could be.  Proper Christmas dinner with crackers and hats, but with the Spanish square outside, the fountain and the Ayuntamiento (town hall).

Christmas lights, different yet the same.  Nativity scenes, different yet the same.  A Christmas walk, different yet the same.  Spanish and English cultures, mixing.  So many things completely different, which over time will become normal.  A Spang-lish Christmas.   Every tradition had to begin somewhere, once upon a time.  Today is the first Christmas of the rest of your life - happy Christmas everyone.

 

 

 

© Tamara Essex 2012



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Gerald said:
Tuesday, December 25, 2012 @ 10:00 PM

Oh! you bought a tear to my eye and a feeling of sadness meeting with yours but also a feeling of happiness for you as you truly respect life with its joys and bitterness.
Your first Christmas of change for you could not I think have been written better.
I'm glad Tamara you had a good Christmas day and may that time continue until the next one.


Patricia (Campana) said:
Wednesday, December 26, 2012 @ 2:31 PM

What a wonderful and nostalgic Christmas for you, Tamara. May you have many many more Happy Christmasses in your new abode.

Today is St. Stephen's Day here in Ireland (where it is not called Boxing Day). We had Christmas in Ireland, and indeed it was rare for us not to have Christmas in Ireland over the past decades. When my parents were still living it was such a delight arriving back in Dublin, friends and family at the airport to meet us. And then one Christmas as we left to return to Spain just after New Year's Day, I looked back, and Dad (who got a flu over the Christmas) was there in the hall, and he looked shadowy as he waved. I wanted to say, "let's not go to the airport". I knew he was waving goodbye. Three weeks later we returned to Ireland for his funeral. He was a unique and extraordinary person, selfless. I never heard him complain, ever.
Yesterday we talked about him a lot, and about my Mum. For me, they were "Christmas".

Patricia



Tamara said:
Wednesday, December 26, 2012 @ 3:51 PM

Thanks Gerry. Patricia - what a sad and touching moment, but how lovely you have such good memories of your parents. Best Christmas wishes to you both :-)


Gerald said:
Wednesday, December 26, 2012 @ 7:08 PM

Christmas holds so many memories, mainly good but somehow the sad ones are so potent.
I still think back all those years ago when we unknowingly took our mom & dad for granted but however treated them with entire & complete respect.
We wonder if the old days were better; but but push into the back of our memories the coal fires & proper candles on the Christmas tree, with ice on the inside of the bedroom window when waking in the morning. I like my central heating I'm afraid!
As most of us, I loved my mom & dad dearly & miss them even after the long 42 & 25 years, their memory lives on very brightly as do of course my dearly departed wonderful sister & two brothers.
Tamara & Patricia you have invoked so many memories of Christmas's past, many thanks. xx


Hugh Kerr said:
Wednesday, December 26, 2012 @ 10:45 PM

happy xmas Tamara and keep up the blog I really enjoy it.


mac75 said:
Thursday, December 27, 2012 @ 2:49 PM

Merry Christmas , a lovely post Tamara.


Tamara said:
Friday, December 28, 2012 @ 3:17 PM

Thanks everybody - you'll never know how much I appreciate your comments.


Kerry said:
Saturday, December 29, 2012 @ 7:05 AM

Thank you Tamara for a very emotional read.

It was our first christmas in 32 years since we got married that none of our parents were present at christmas dinner which made christmas very different from previous.

Christmas is certainly a time for memories

All the best


Finisterre said:
Saturday, December 29, 2012 @ 8:47 AM

What a beautifully written and moving post, Tamara. I'm so glad you made the most of your time with your mum.

And thank you for inspiring such touching comments. My mother's going is still impossible for me to contemplate, even though I know it has to happen one day, but I know she had similar feelings to you all about the loss of her own mother. I just hope I can be around for my daughter as long as Mum has been for me.


Christopher Gamble said:
Saturday, December 29, 2012 @ 12:59 PM

I do think its been milder this winter than any I recall in the last nine years in Andalucia.


Jenny Child said:
Saturday, December 29, 2012 @ 2:34 PM

Tamara what you wrote was beautiful it brought a tear to my eyes.
Even though I now have two beautiful grandchildren I hate Christmas now my parents, brother and in-laws are no longer with us. However, having read what you wrote I shall try to resolve to be more positive next year.
I am glad you enjoyed your Christmas although it was very different. I do enjoy your blog and find it very entertaining. Please keep it up.


Dilemma said:
Saturday, December 29, 2012 @ 6:44 PM

What a lovely and moving account of Christmas this year, it's been a joy to read your blog. As we are new in our Spanish adventures, it's great to read how you are getting on.


Tamara said:
Saturday, December 29, 2012 @ 10:12 PM

Kerry, Finisterre, Jenny and Dilemma - lovely to hear from you all, thank you so much for your kind comments. If I'm completely honest, it's always a bit of a surprise to be reminded that people are reading this blog! The intention is, partly, to let other newbies know how I'm getting on so they can avoid pitfalls etc, but in the main I just write what comes to me on walks or visits around the area, so it's genuinely delightful to me when people say they enjoy it - thanks again!


Pinkie said:
Sunday, December 30, 2012 @ 9:43 AM

Dear Tamara
I enjoyed reading your article, it was beautifully written and very moving. This time of year we always find is a difficult time without family and close friends around, but inapite of that you filled your day with great memories and hopefully made friendships which will continue for many years. Happy New year


kim said:
Sunday, December 30, 2012 @ 7:34 PM

Lovely moving blog Tamara. Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a happy and healthy 2013.


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