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Thoughts from a brand new home-owner in the Axarquía region of Málaga. I hope there might be some information and experiences of use to other new purchasers, plus the occasional line to provoke thought or discussion.

34 - The Enchanted Place
Sunday, December 2, 2012 @ 10:57 PM

 “Christopher Robin was going away.”  Possibly the most tear-jerking words in the whole canon of children’s literature.   The opening line of “The House at Pooh Corner” - chapter ten “In Which Christopher Robin and Pooh Come to an Enchanted Place and We Leave Them There.”

It makes tough reading, even for grown-ups.

They walked on, thinking of This and That, and by-and-by they came to an enchanted place on the very top of the forest …..  Sitting there they could see the whole world spread out until it reached the sky, and whatever there was all the world over was with them.

“Pooh, when I’m – you know ….. will you come up here sometimes?”  “Just me?”  “Yes, Pooh.”  “Will you be here too?”  “Yes, Pooh, I will be really.  I promise I will be, Pooh.”  “That’s good,” said Pooh.

For many of us of a certain age, the age of people who took O-levels, wore hot-pants and watched “Follyfoot”, chapter ten was our first experience of separation and loss.  Christopher Robin was going away.  Somehow though, he had promised, he would always be there.  Somehow though, if we go to the enchanted place, we will always find him there.

I found the enchanted place by accident, about six weeks ago.  And like the best enchanted places, it’s close and very easy to get to.  I went for a long walk on the day that would have been my mother’s birthday (Blog 28 - Reflecting).  Maybe my heart and mind were more open to the enchantment, but whatever it was, when I stepped round a corner and saw the perfection of the spot, the framing of the view, the mountains and the valley, all viewed through the almond trees, I knew I had found my enchanted place.  “The whole world spread out until it reached the sky.”  For no reason and for every reason the tears flowed.

And at that moment a question I had been struggling with was answered.  I don’t need to bring my mother’s ashes out to Spain.  The lemon tree that I planted for her is there on the patio so I can give her a smile each morning.  And when I want to, I can go up there sometimes to the enchanted place.   “Will you be here too?”  Yes, I will be really.  I promise I will be.” 

“That’s good.”

 

© Tamara Essex 2012



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eggcup said:
Monday, December 3, 2012 @ 11:21 AM

Hi Tamara. Just spotted this and showed it to my husband. He found it very moving (and had a tear), after losing his mother also this year. It's great that you've found a place which you can associate with your mother - it doesn't matter if she knew it or not. I associate some songs with my father that I was playing around the time of his death - he wouldn't have even known the songs, but they're forever associated with him.


Louise said:
Monday, December 3, 2012 @ 3:50 PM

Thats lovely Tamara and the photo of the view is stunning! Its good that the tears came, they must have needed to come. I'm sure there will be many more times too.... Its good that you've found a place to remember your mother, you obviously had a close bond. It sounds like she will be with you wherever you are.


Tamara said:
Monday, December 3, 2012 @ 6:06 PM

Thanks ladies :-) You're right Louise, it could have been anywhere. But now I've made the association with that place, the connection is there forever I think. And as soon as I saw it I did think of Winnie the Pooh. Funny how when you read Pooh again after having different experiences, you find so much more depth in it.


mac75 said:
Thursday, December 6, 2012 @ 4:34 PM

Your post really moved me. Beautiful.


Tamara said:
Thursday, December 6, 2012 @ 6:22 PM

Thanks Mac. Was that the first you'd read of the blog? It ranges from (l think) funny to moving to controversial. I'd be interested in your views on "Expats or Immigrants".


Patricia (Campana) said:
Friday, December 7, 2012 @ 2:16 PM

That is beautiful, Tamara, and what a photo of that view.

The loved ones live on in our memories, as your mother will, in the spirit of that lemon tree you planted.

My mother died ten years ago, my father before that. Yet I still find myself asking them a question aloud now and then. You know those "what should I do, do you think" moments. If only they could have lived forever....

Snowed under with work these days, so only get a chance to look in onyou Tamara, Eggcup....and, where's Gerald?

Patricia






Zara said:
Saturday, December 8, 2012 @ 9:44 PM

You just made me cry.


Kim said:
Monday, December 10, 2012 @ 11:54 PM

Really moving blog. The ones we love will always be wherever we are. My parents have been gone for a long time now but there are songs, smells, places, that will evoke that sense of loss and make it feel like yesterday. My enchanted place is wherever I find that quiet moment to think of them and have a quiet word. I am so glad that you have found that special place for you. They are never more than a breath away.


Gerald said:
Tuesday, December 11, 2012 @ 7:49 PM

Hi Tamara,
just catching up on everything on the site and as usual my best friends are the first ones I look at. I often wondered about your lemon tree knowing it was bought for your mom's memory. I'm glad it is thriving.
I too felt a pang when I read the blog and felt so frustratingly sorry for you and your fond memories which will never fade.
Never been a Pooh fan afraid I was more into Biggles, Superman & Roy of the Rovers but still have empathy with your secret place.
Still, I'm back again, don't worry Patricia you won't lose me that easily. I'll let you know on my blog in a while and why the sabbatical!


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